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| tulips |
One of my
boy’s is turning a year older today. The whole pack gathers at our favorite
hangout joint in town to deliberate on how make the night memorable. The course
of our conversation shifts to the traits one looks for in a girl before getting
into a relationship. We all had varied opinions on this subject. The following
is a list of the top 10 things we all found to be most eye-catching.
1)
Independency
A girl who
is emotionally stable, has an opinion and is financially independent happened
to be the most eligible spinster. She should have her own life; a career,
friends and interests. Getting stuck to a clingy person can be really draining.
The lass should let her guy spend quality time with his associates, pursue his
interests and not tag her wherever he goes.
Since we live
in tough economic times a lady shouldn’t off load all her financial obligations
to the dude. The guy does not always have to be the one who pays the bills or
buys gifts, she too should be able to pick the tab sometimes and also give
presents. A girl who has her own view towards life, different tastes and diverse
interests is fun to be with. Don’t make it your life’s mission to espouse all
your guy’s interests, likes and dislikes; it’s repugnant. Be independent!
2)
Confidence
You
don’t need to posses the looks of Naomi Campbell in order to be confident.
Learn to accept and cherish everything about yourself, whether it’s your skin
colour, body size, height, cleavage or even eyes. It is rather depressing to
hang out with a girl who keeps whining about her weight, shape, lips etc. You
are beautiful just the way you are! I am pretty sure no authentic guy would
like you less just because you have smaller hips than your friends. So lift
your head up high, let your gait exude confidence, flaunt your best assets and
live with your not so good traits. After all nobody is perfect!
3)
Natural hair
If you are
not suffering from any hair ailment or undergoing cancer treatment please avoid
weaves and wigs like plague. I’m an ardent hater of fake hair. I find them
obnoxious; my insides cringe at the sight of a weave. Although natural hair is
tedious and expensive maintain but it oozes out beauty, health and fertility. A
lady who goes an extra mile to take good care of her natural hair portrays
ability to take even better care of her own family. Cheap low-end weaves are an
eye sore in fact they should be declared illicit and anyone found in possession
is thrown into prison without a trial. Stroking that patch of phony hair can be
such a traumatizing experience for anyone. If I meet a lady for the first time
and she is spotting a weave I immediately strike her off my list of potential
dates.
4)
Loyalty
All successful
men find it difficult when it comes to choosing the right partner. Since wealth
is a great aphrodisiac, any guy who has amassed a sizeable fortune is afraid
that the girl he is dating might only be interested in his property. He will
always be worried that if he goes broke she would immediately jump ship and go
for another man. Nothing beats the joy of having someone who you can share your
most intimate secrets, worries and weaknesses without any fear whatsoever. We
all want to be hitched to someone who is real, loyal and honest about their
feelings. I’m yet to know how to find out if a girl is genuine or has ill
motives, if you know of any way on how to do that please enlighten me.
5)
Good sense of humor
Contrary to
what most people think having a good sense of humor doesn’t mean one is funny, it’s
that they see the lighter side of things in life. Picture this; you are on a
date with this gorgeous lady you’ve been eyeing for quite some time now. You go
ahead and unleash all you killer jokes only to have her sit there, arms across,
staring back at you as if waiting to suddenly see horns sprout out on your head!
Even though he may be the worst comedian ever, Its nice to appreciate when he
tries to cheer you up. However silly his tales might be, the trace of a smile
on your lips would greatly encourage the poor bloke.
6)
Smiling
A warming
smile can melt even the hardest of men. A smiling lady is approachable, attractive
and welcoming. This reminds of a lady I know of on campus who hardly smiles. She
struts around with a serious demeanor .There was a time she was complaining
that guys hardly approach her. Very few people would like to be associated with
someone who looks like she is carrying the whole world on her back. When you
walk around with a frown on your face it scares away potential suitors. My advice, try smiling whenever you are taking
a stroll out on the streets, who knows ,your prince charming may be attracted
by that and come running to you arms wide open!
7)
A good cook
As the
cliché goes, “the quickest way to man’s heart is through the stomach.” you
don’t need to have the culinary skills of an Italian chef or a secret recipe to
achieve this. Learn how to make a few dishes; hata kama ni chapo madondo tu. Most guys can attest to this, a lady
who cannot make a decent meal does not pass for a ‘wife material’. Keep in mind
that dipping some instant noodles into hot water which become edible in less
than three minutes does not pass for cooking at all!
8)
Moderation
A
few years ago I used to have these lady friends who loved partying hard.
Drinking hard liquor, smoking a couple of cigarettes and doing drugs was order
of the day. A few days ago I bumped into
one of them in town; I was shocked to say the least. The girl who was stunning
beautiful 3 years ago now looks like a shell of her former self. She has aged
considerably. You would think she is in her late thirties when in reality she
is only 22 years old! Dear ladies, if
you have to take alcohol or do drugs please do it with moderation lest you end
up looking like a scare crow!
9)
Talented
A lady who
can sing, paint, dance, play an instrument or perform any other form of art is
such a great turn on. It makes her special, connected to something greater and
also feed my fantasy that I’ll get a pretty little daughter who can sing and
draw.
10) Adventurous
I’m
the kind of guy who easily gets bored so dating a girl who is so predictable,
without drama and conservative is quite intricate. A lady who isn’t afraid to
explore the world, pursue her passions, have fun, wild and adventurous is
simply refreshing to date. Having someone you can go from watching a football
match with to rock climbing is epic!
If
there is something most girls are so poor at then it’s how to express
themselves out. Guys are not mind readers; if he does something you don’t like
please let him know forthright. It’s completely unfair for you to be so mean,
expecting him to realize his mistake and apologize on his own. Once you develop
feelings for a guy go ahead tell them, don’t wait for him to figure that out on
his own as it may take ages mean while you are hurting in side.
Have
an expressive day!
By
lammergeier
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| mark maina aka lammergeier |
hahaha niiice piece bro
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